Author: Benjamin Williams; Michael Mckibben
Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
ISBN: 1441590803
Category : Religion
Languages : en
Pages : 239

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History is strewn with examples of failed leadership. The book ends for these stories, we contend, are abusive power and control (tyranny) on one hand and "me" (narcissism) on the other. Tyranny gives us such notables as Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot, Nero and Ivan the Terrible. Narcissism gives us Bernard Maddoff, Enron, Jim Bakker, Henry the 8th ,and Louis the 14th. With so many examples of failed leadership, why have we not learned our lesson? Why do we keep repeating our mistakes? The answer lies in human nature. Some people lust for power and control over others, and if the truth be told, others prefer being "told what to do" because then they don't have to think or take responsibility for their actions: being controlled gives them someone to blame. Others crave attention and seek the adulation of those around them and, like the victims of tyranny, those ruled by narcissists prefer a hero figure to adore in good times, and blame in bad times. Christianity is both belief and practice. Therefore it is both critical, and the authors argue, necessary, that the leadership practices of Christians be consistent with the faith. What do you do when you've tried the theories and they aren't working? You move beyond tyranny and narcissism. Where do you go? You go to historic Christianity. At the heart of the Christian revelation you will discover a timeless organizational model that is founded upon the Holy Trinity, and a leadership model incarnated in Jesus Christ both of which are relevant for daily living and decision making, no matter what your organization. It's time to stop acquiescing to tyranny and narcissism as if things cannot be better. It's time to claim the higher ground. This takes leadership born of courage, strength, character, discipline and faith. It also takes knowing where you want to go. The authors provide a well-grounded blueprint. Beginning with a Trinitarian vision of a communion of persons, McKibben and Williams outline in many practical ways how it is possible to make hierarchy and conciliarity complementary aspects of a leadership based on mutual service and accountability. If you are disillusioned with organizational church life, or simply frustrated at the gap between theology and administration, then this book will be a source of hope If you are disillusioned with organizational church life, or simply frustraed at the gap between theology and administration, then this book will be a source of hope....this is a pioneering work. Fr. John A. Jillions Associate Professor, Saint Paul University, Ottawa, Canada; Vice-President of the Canadian Council of Churches Beyond Tryanny and Narcissism addresses organizational realities that all churches and businesses struggle with, and does so from the perspective of the historic Christian faith by drawing on the doctrine of the Holy Trinity and Christ ́s leadership style. It is the best single practical treatment on the Holy Trinity I have read. Dr Richared J. Mouw President, Fuller Theological Seminary

Author: D Williams and Michael T Benjamin D Williams and Michael T McKi
Publisher: Xlibris Corporation
ISBN: 9781441590794
Category : Christian leadership
Languages : en
Pages : 0

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History is strewn with examples of failed leadership. The book ends for these stories, we contend, are abusive power and control (tyranny) on one hand and "me" (narcissism) on the other. Tyranny gives us such notables as Hitler, Stalin, Pol Pot, Nero and Ivan the Terrible. Narcissism gives us Bernard Maddoff, Enron, Jim Bakker, Henry the 8th ,and Louis the 14th. With so many examples of failed leadership, why have we not learned our lesson? Why do we keep repeating our mistakes? The answer lies in human nature. Some people lust for power and control over others, and if the truth be told, others prefer being "told what to do" because then they don't have to think or take responsibility for their actions: being controlled gives them someone to blame. Others crave attention and seek the adulation of those around them and, like the victims of tyranny, those ruled by narcissists prefer a hero figure to adore in good times, and blame in bad times. Christianity is both belief and practice. Therefore it is both critical, and the authors argue, necessary, that the leadership practices of Christians be consistent with the faith. What do you do when you've tried the theories and they aren't working? You move beyond tyranny and narcissism. Where do you go? You go to historic Christianity. At the heart of the Christian revelation you will discover a timeless organizational model that is founded upon the Holy Trinity, and a leadership model incarnated in Jesus Christ both of which are relevant for daily living and decision making, no matter what your organization. It's time to stop acquiescing to tyranny and narcissism as if things cannot be better. It's time to claim the higher ground. This takes leadership born of courage, strength, character, discipline and faith. It also takes knowing where you want to go. The authors provide a well-grounded blueprint. Beginning with a Trinitarian vision of a communion of persons, McKibben and Williams outline in many practical ways how it is possible to make hierarchy and conciliarity complementary aspects of a leadership based on mutual service and accountability. If you are disillusioned with organizational church life, or simply frustrated at the gap between theology and administration, then this book will be a source of hope If you are disillusioned with organizational church life, or simply frustraed at the gap between theology and administration, then this book will be a source of hope....this is a pioneering work. Fr. John A. Jillions Associate Professor, Saint Paul University, Ottawa, Canada; Vice-President of the Canadian Council of Churches Beyond Tryanny and Narcissism addresses organizational realities that all churches and businesses struggle with, and does so from the perspective of the historic Christian faith by drawing on the doctrine of the Holy Trinity and Christ ́s leadership style. It is the best single practical treatment on the Holy Trinity I have read. Dr Richared J. Mouw President, Fuller Theological Seminary

Author: Lester Churchill
Publisher: Lester Churchill
ISBN:
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 136

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Are you in a friendship or relationship with another person which leaves you feeling increasingly dependent and worthless? Do you feel stuck because the person in your life always argues you into submission no matter how hard you try? Is your voice never heard? Are you being exploited? Has this person threatened you with violence or cut you off from all your resources, family, and friends? If you answered yes to any of these questions, chances are very high that you are involved with a Narcissist. Once you understand the problem and the process to overcome it, you can solve this problem- and you can do it. You see, you aren't the problem in your current relationship, be it romantic or platonic. The problem is your Narcissist. Let the author show you how to regain your life.

Author: Sandy Hotchkiss
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1439106533
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 219

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In this groundbreaking book -- the first popular book on narcissism in more than a decade -- clinical social worker and psychotherapist Sandy Hotchkiss shows you how to cope with controlling, egotistical people who are incapable of the fundamental give-and-take that sustains healthy relationships. Exploring how individuals come to have this shortcoming, why you get drawn into their perilous orbit, and what you can do to break free, Hotchkiss describes the "Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism" and their origins. You will learn to recognize these hallmarks of unhealthy narcissism -- Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation, Bad Boundaries -- and to understand the roles that parenting and culture play in their creation. Whether the narcissist in question is a coworker, spouse, parent, or child, Why Is It Always About You? provides abundant practical advice for anyone struggling to break narcissism's insidious spread to the next generation, and for anyone who encounters narcissists in everyday life.

Author: Dean A Haycock
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1643131117
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 362

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An incisive examination into the pairing of psychology and situation that creates despotic leaders from the author of Murderous Minds. Not everyone can become a tyrant. It requires a particular confluence of events to gain absolute control over entire nations. First, you must be born with the potential to develop brutal personality traits. Often, this is a combination of narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism, paranoia and an extraordinary ambition to achieve control over others. Second, your dangerous personality must be developed and strengthened during childhood. You might suffer physical and/or psychological abuse. Finally, you must come of age when the political system of your country is unstable. Together, these events establish a basis to rise to power, one that Stalin, Hitler, Mao Zedong, Saddam Hussein, and Muammar Qaddafi all used to gain life-and-death control over their countrymen and women. It is how the leaders of the Islamic State hoped to gain such power. Though these men lived in different times and places, and came from vastly different backgrounds, many of them felt respect for each other. They often seemed to recognize their shared, “dark” personality traits and viewed them as strengths. Only in rare cases did they show signs of mental disorders. “Getting inside the heads” of foreign leaders and terrorists is one way governments try to understand, predict, and influence their actions. Psychological profiles can help us understand the urges of tyrants to dominate, subjugate, torture and slaughter. Tyrannical Minds reveals how recognizing their psychological traits can provide insight into the motivations and actions of dangerous leaders, potentially allow to us predict their behavior?and even how to stop them. As strongmen and authoritarian leaders around the world increase in number, understanding the most extreme examples of tyrannical behavior should serve as a warning to anyone indifferent to the threats posed by political extremism.

Author: Francois Ansermet
Publisher: Routledge
ISBN: 0429905920
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 208

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This book explores the issues that surround medically assisted reproduction. It addresses the place of destiny, including how to think about individual destinies in an age of increasingly accessible gene sequencing paired with a growing link between procreation and prediction.

Author: Sigmund Freud
Publisher: Penguin UK
ISBN: 0141931663
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 320

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A collection of some of Freud's most famous essays, including ON THE INTRODUCTION OF NARCISSISM; REMEMBERING, REPEATING AND WORKING THROUGH; BEYOND THE PLEASURE PRINCIPLE; THE EGO AND THE ID and INHIBITION, SYMPTOM AND FEAR.

Author: J.H. Simon
Publisher: J.H. Simon
ISBN:
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 244

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The follow-up to the top-seller ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ You have successfully broken free and are on the path to recovery. Yet the weight of emotional abuse still plagues you, and you seem to keep attracting narcissists. Break free of narcissism for good by: 1. Gaining a bulletproof understanding of the psychology and sociology of narcissism, which gifts you an indispensable bird's-eye view. 2. Diving deep into your authentic Self and undergoing a complete transformation, which empowers you beyond measure. Throughout this book, the mythology of the hero’s journey will serve as a guide. Like the hero in the story, you will leave the familiar behind, venture into the depths of your shadow, and conquer the ‘demons’ of your past, before returning with the ‘gold’: an actualised Self immune from narcissistic abuse. ‘How To Bury A Narcissist’ is one of the last books on the topic you will need. It is an all-inclusive reference on narcissism and a spiritual guide for transformation, separated into four parts: I. THE ORIGINS OF SELFHOOD Learn the building blocks of the True Self; security, vitality, tenacity, divinity and wisdom, and understand how they combine to actualise your power and give your life purpose and meaning. II. THE AGE OF NARCISSISM - Discover the shadowy roots of narcissism. - Expose the many hidden faces of the narcissist, including the borderline, the histrionic, the psychopath, and other cluster A, B and C personalities. - Study the narcissist's playbook, including triangulation, gaslighting and reactive abuse. - Explore in detail the roles and dynamics of the narcissistic family and see how this blueprint corrupts friendships, workplaces and spiritual movements. - Identify your place in this landscape, and above all, discover what made you vulnerable to abuse in the first place. III. THE HERO’S JOURNEY Embark on a modern-day spiritual quest to rescue your wounded inner child and discover the source of your power - the True Self. The hero’s journey includes eight stages for ‘Self’ development: 1. Awakening: Expose and tear down the narcissist’s illusory Dystopia. 2. Orphanhood: Face and release your abandonment wound. Channel the Orphan archetype to carry you through the wilderness of transformation. 3. Metamorphosis: Use the art of centering to awaken your spiritual power and pave the way to your True Self, setting you up for transformation. 4. Reclaiming security: Anchor yourself firmly within and learn to thrive in the face of uncertainty and fear. 5. Reclaiming vitality: Unleash spontaneity and high-energy states by aligning with the flow of life. 6. Reclaiming tenacity: Welcome tension as an agent for growth, and use it to increase your assertiveness and capacity to set boundaries. 7. Reclaiming divinity: Learn to validate yourself from within, and let go of the need for outside approval. 8. Reclaiming wisdom: Tap into the vast intelligence inside you and use it for maturity, understanding and insight. IV. THE RETURN Having sufficiently developed the Self, you awaken fully. The tyranny of narcissism collapses, and you look ahead with hope to an empowered, actualised way of life. By helping you Self-actualise, ‘How To Bury A Narcissist’ opens you to an unimaginable state of power. This profound shift transforms the narcissist’s influence from a devastating storm into a harmless breeze, allowing you to finally move on and become who you were born to be. This is the art of burying a narcissist.

Author: J.H. Simon
Publisher: J.H. Simon
ISBN:
Category : Psychology
Languages : en
Pages : 144

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Narcissism is an overwhelming and confusing topic. But when you reveal its mask, you see that it is basically a lie, told to those who are vulnerable. Narcissistic abuse, by nature, is designed to keep you trapped in shame-based vertigo. It doesn’t just go away because you know it exists. Narcissism creates a set of beliefs, behaviours and paradigms in its target which must be changed from the inside. ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ is a book with two aims: 1. To reveal the rotten core of the narcissistic personality so you can see it clearly 2. To present you with an inside-out strategy for healing, recovery and freedom Whether you are dealing with narcissistic parents, husbands, wives, friends, bosses or colleagues, the same philosophy will apply. After reading ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’, you will: - Become aware of the damage narcissistic abuse has done to your psyche and how to heal it - See how the narcissist uses shame as a weapon to fool you into feeling inferior - Understand the playing field which narcissists thrive on and how to stop playing their game - Learn how the narcissist uses mind control to break down and rebuild your identity for the purpose of subjugation - Gain tools for disarming a narcissist i.e. starving them of their narcissistic supply - Have taken a closer look beyond the label of narcissistic personality disorder ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ takes an enlightening look at the dynamic between a narcissist and their target. It takes you on a deep journey and describes: - How we unwittingly qualify as targets of narcissists - The shame/grandiosity continuum and how the narcissist uses it to crush your self-esteem - The law of grandiosity and how it influences our relationships with the self-absorbed - The effect that narcissism has on its target including: toxic shame, a dissociated mind and a weakened ego - The obstacles which keep you trapped in a cycle of narcissistic abuse: the psychological cage, love starvation, low shame tolerance, guilt and conditioning to shamelessness Using an inside-out approach, ‘How To Kill A Narcissist’ presents the seven practices for recovery and healing: 1. Get allies: Boost self-esteem through limbic resonance 2. Give shape to your true self: Uncover disowned parts of the self and restore wholeness 3. Skill up: Empower yourself 4. Flex your muscles: Challenge the psychological cage and come out of hiding 5. Even the scale: Restore balance to your relationships 6. Boundaries: Foster a strong sense of self and firmly protect it 7. Scorched earth: Disengage from those who wish to manipulate you Each practice is designed to instil you with independence, strength, emotional resilience and awareness while allowing you to cultivate balanced, loving relationships and pursue a life of passion. This is the art of killing a narcissist.

Author: J. H. Simon
Publisher: Jh Simon
ISBN: 9780648012870
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 372

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The follow-up to the top-seller 'How To Kill A Narcissist.' Take a hero's journey through the heart of narcissism and emerge into wholeness. You have successfully exposed the narcissist and are on the path toward recovery. 'Narcissism To Rebirth' is a guide for those who want lasting transformation and freedom. The book provides a deep dive into the nature of the Self and how narcissism stunts its development. With the mythology of the hero's journey as a guide, you can work toward transformation in four parts: 1. THE ORIGINS OF SELFHOOD: Understand the building blocks of the Self and how you become actualised by unifying all of its elements. 2. THE AGE OF NARCISSISM: Expand your consciousness. Understand how the tyranny of narcissism descends at all levels; from its psychological roots to its impact on society at large. Explore in detail the roles and dynamics of the narcissistic family and how this blueprint corrupts all manner of social groups, including business, friendship and community. Come to know the fraudulence and emptiness at the heart of these narcissist regimes; structures dominated by a narcissist. 3. THE HERO'S JOURNEY: Determining your place in this ecosystem and how it shapes you is crucial. From there, a modern-day spiritual journey takes you from the world of ego and into the source of personal power - your True Self. Here you will reclaim and unite the five fundamental forces of the Self: security, vitality, tenacity, divinity and wisdom.Meanwhile, you will heal your trauma one layer at a time, purging the damage of narcissistic abuse from the inside out. 4. THE RETURN: Having sufficiently developed the Self, you awaken into wholeness. The tyranny of narcissism collapses, and you look ahead to an empowered, actualised way of life. You live life your way, and contribute your newly found gifts to the world around you. The hero's journey includes eight stages for Self development: 1. Awakening: Explore how duality leaves you vulnerable to manipulation and put an end to it. 2. Orphanhood: Face and release your abandonment wound. Channel the strength of the Orphan archetype to carry you through the wilderness. 3. Metamorphosis: Use the art of centering to mindfully carve through the confusion and pave the way to your True Self, setting you up for transformation. 4. Reclaiming security: Ground yourself and learn to thrive in the face of uncertainty and fear. 5. Reclaiming vitality: Unleash spontaneity and evolution by merging with the flow of life and learning to truly see and connect with your Self and others. 6. Reclaiming tenacity: Welcome tension as an agent for growth, and use it to increase your assertiveness and capacity to set boundaries. 7. Reclaiming divinity: Learn to validate yourself from within while allowing the fullness of your energy to penetrate all facets of your life. 8. Reclaiming wisdom: Tap into the vast intelligence inside you by embracing shame as an ally, using it for maturity, understanding and insight. Through helping you grow the inherent forces of the Self, 'Narcissism To Rebirth' opens you to an unimaginable state of power. This profound shift transforms the narcissist's influence from a storm into a breeze, allowing you to finally move on and become who you were born to be.