Author: Julie S. Ross
Publisher: JULIE S. ROSS
ISBN:
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages :
Book Description
Spilled Milk Based on a True Story. Some of us have extremely pleasant memories of our childhood while others only wish they could forget the many horrific memories of misery and abusive treatment that continue to plague those years later well into adulthood. During my extensive studies and interviews with young and older adults who were victims of abuse during childhood, I have found one common denominator: the suppressed memories of abuse from the parents in times past. A few years ago, child abuse was considered a private matter, much like domestic violence and wife beating. I would like to share with you an outstanding example of one individual I interviewed. Please understand that I am not sharing this experience with you just as a “Boohoo, poor me” account, but rather as a tool that might assist others-those who have had the same or similar experiences growing up and are seeking help in surviving the memories of an abusive past. Additionally, we have some encouragement for parents currently raising children. I am confident that the following experience will assist many in not only facing the past but will help in deleting the memories that can have an adverse impact on your future. Read along as I interview the man we called Carl
How to Survive The Memory of an Abusive Parent
Author: Julie S. Ross
Publisher: JULIE S. ROSS
ISBN:
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages :
Book Description
Spilled Milk Based on a True Story. Some of us have extremely pleasant memories of our childhood while others only wish they could forget the many horrific memories of misery and abusive treatment that continue to plague those years later well into adulthood. During my extensive studies and interviews with young and older adults who were victims of abuse during childhood, I have found one common denominator: the suppressed memories of abuse from the parents in times past. A few years ago, child abuse was considered a private matter, much like domestic violence and wife beating. I would like to share with you an outstanding example of one individual I interviewed. Please understand that I am not sharing this experience with you just as a “Boohoo, poor me” account, but rather as a tool that might assist others-those who have had the same or similar experiences growing up and are seeking help in surviving the memories of an abusive past. Additionally, we have some encouragement for parents currently raising children. I am confident that the following experience will assist many in not only facing the past but will help in deleting the memories that can have an adverse impact on your future. Read along as I interview the man we called Carl
Publisher: JULIE S. ROSS
ISBN:
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages :
Book Description
Spilled Milk Based on a True Story. Some of us have extremely pleasant memories of our childhood while others only wish they could forget the many horrific memories of misery and abusive treatment that continue to plague those years later well into adulthood. During my extensive studies and interviews with young and older adults who were victims of abuse during childhood, I have found one common denominator: the suppressed memories of abuse from the parents in times past. A few years ago, child abuse was considered a private matter, much like domestic violence and wife beating. I would like to share with you an outstanding example of one individual I interviewed. Please understand that I am not sharing this experience with you just as a “Boohoo, poor me” account, but rather as a tool that might assist others-those who have had the same or similar experiences growing up and are seeking help in surviving the memories of an abusive past. Additionally, we have some encouragement for parents currently raising children. I am confident that the following experience will assist many in not only facing the past but will help in deleting the memories that can have an adverse impact on your future. Read along as I interview the man we called Carl
Toxic Parents
Author: Susan Forward
Publisher: Bantam
ISBN: 0307575322
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 322
Book Description
BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. When you were a child... Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless? Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems? Were you frightened of your parents? Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you are an adult... Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents? Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.
Publisher: Bantam
ISBN: 0307575322
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 322
Book Description
BONUS: This edition contains an excerpt from Dr. Susan Forward's Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them. When you were a child... Did your parents tell you were bad or worthless? Did your parents use physical pain to discipline you? Did you have to take care of your parents because of their problems? Were you frightened of your parents? Did your parents do anything to you that had to be kept secret? Now that you are an adult... Do your parents still treat you as if you were a child? Do you have intense emotional or physical reactions after spending time with your parents? Do your parents control you with threats or guilt? Do they manipulate you with money? Do you feel that no matter what you do, it's never good enough for your parents? In this remarkable self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward drawn on case histories and the real-life voices of adult children of toxic parents to help you free yourself from the frustrating patterns of your relationship with your parents -- and discover an exciting new world of self-confidence, inner strength, and emotional independence.
Liberating Losses
Author: Jennifer Elison
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780756794361
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 214
Book Description
As taboo as it is to admit, not every death brings great sadness. Nontraditional loss responseÓ is a positive reaction following a death & is frequently encountered now that medical treatments keep people alive much longer than they or their families might wish. We may be relieved a loved one is no longer suffering, or we may feel relieved to be free of an abusive relationship. Either way, the cultural expectation for sadness, loneliness, & despair only adds to the guilt felt by many relieved grievers.Ó Illuminating for the first time a reaction that many deem insensitive, the authors share their pragmatic counsel & stories of ' liberating losses.Ó Expands the traditional definition of grief, &, in so doing, validates the emotions that many of us feel obliged to hide.
Publisher:
ISBN: 9780756794361
Category :
Languages : en
Pages : 214
Book Description
As taboo as it is to admit, not every death brings great sadness. Nontraditional loss responseÓ is a positive reaction following a death & is frequently encountered now that medical treatments keep people alive much longer than they or their families might wish. We may be relieved a loved one is no longer suffering, or we may feel relieved to be free of an abusive relationship. Either way, the cultural expectation for sadness, loneliness, & despair only adds to the guilt felt by many relieved grievers.Ó Illuminating for the first time a reaction that many deem insensitive, the authors share their pragmatic counsel & stories of ' liberating losses.Ó Expands the traditional definition of grief, &, in so doing, validates the emotions that many of us feel obliged to hide.
Running on Empty
Author: Jonice Webb
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 161448242X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 250
Book Description
A large segment of the population struggles with feelings of being detached from themselves and their loved ones. They feel flawed, and blame themselves. Running on Empty will help them realize that they're suffering not because of something that happened to them in childhood, but because of something that didn't happen. It's the white space in their family picture, the background rather than the foreground. This will be the first self-help book to bring this invisible force to light, educate people about it, and teach them how to overcome it.
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 161448242X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 250
Book Description
A large segment of the population struggles with feelings of being detached from themselves and their loved ones. They feel flawed, and blame themselves. Running on Empty will help them realize that they're suffering not because of something that happened to them in childhood, but because of something that didn't happen. It's the white space in their family picture, the background rather than the foreground. This will be the first self-help book to bring this invisible force to light, educate people about it, and teach them how to overcome it.
Liking the Child You Love
Author: Jeffrey Bernstein
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 073821261X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 274
Book Description
How to recognize and cope with Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS): negative thoughts and feelings about your children"
Publisher: Da Capo Lifelong Books
ISBN: 073821261X
Category : Family & Relationships
Languages : en
Pages : 274
Book Description
How to recognize and cope with Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS): negative thoughts and feelings about your children"
Coping With Trauma
Author: Jon G. Allen
Publisher: American Psychiatric Pub
ISBN: 1585626821
Category : Medical
Languages : en
Pages : 376
Book Description
Combining years of research, teaching, and experience treating trauma survivors, Dr. Jon G. Allen offers compassionate and practical guidance to understanding trauma and its effects on the self and relationships. Coping With Trauma is based on more than a decade of Dr. Allen's experience conducting educational groups for persons struggling with psychiatric disorders stemming from trauma. Written for a general audience, this book does not require a background in psychology. Readers will gain essential knowledge to embark on the process of healing from the complex wounds of trauma, along with a guide to current treatment approaches. In this supportive and informative work, readers will be introduced to and encouraged in the process of healing by an author who is both witness and guide. This clearly written, insightful book not only teaches clinicians about trauma but also, equally important, teaches clinicians how to educate their patients about trauma. Reshaped by recent developments in attachment theory, including the importance of cumulative stress over a lifetime, this compelling work retains the author's initial focus on attachment as he looks at trauma from two perspectives. From the psychological perspective, the author discusses the impact of trauma on emotion, memory, the self, and relationships, incorporating research from neuroscience to argue that trauma is a physical illness. From the psychiatric perspective, the author discusses various trauma-related disorders and symptoms: depression, posttraumatic stress disorder, and dissociative disorders, along with a range of self-destructive behaviors to which trauma can make a contribution. Important updates include substantive and practical information on Emotion and emotion regulation, prompted by extensive contemporary research on emotion -- which is becoming a science unto itself. Illness, based on current developments in the neurobiological understanding of trauma. Depression, a pervasive trauma-related problem that poses a number of catch-22s for recovery. Various forms of self-destructiveness -- substance abuse, eating disorders, and deliberate self-harm -- all construed as coping strategies that backfire. Suicidal states and self-defeating aspects of personality disorders. The author addresses the challenges of healing by reviewing strategies of emotion regulation as well as a wide range of sound treatment approaches. He concludes with a new chapter on the foundation of all healing: maintaining hope. This exceptionally comprehensive overview of a wide range of traumatic experiences, written in nontechnical language with extensive references to both classic and contemporary theoretical, clinical, and research literature, offers a uniquely useful guide for victims of trauma, their family members, and mental health care professionals alike.
Publisher: American Psychiatric Pub
ISBN: 1585626821
Category : Medical
Languages : en
Pages : 376
Book Description
Combining years of research, teaching, and experience treating trauma survivors, Dr. Jon G. Allen offers compassionate and practical guidance to understanding trauma and its effects on the self and relationships. Coping With Trauma is based on more than a decade of Dr. Allen's experience conducting educational groups for persons struggling with psychiatric disorders stemming from trauma. Written for a general audience, this book does not require a background in psychology. Readers will gain essential knowledge to embark on the process of healing from the complex wounds of trauma, along with a guide to current treatment approaches. In this supportive and informative work, readers will be introduced to and encouraged in the process of healing by an author who is both witness and guide. This clearly written, insightful book not only teaches clinicians about trauma but also, equally important, teaches clinicians how to educate their patients about trauma. Reshaped by recent developments in attachment theory, including the importance of cumulative stress over a lifetime, this compelling work retains the author's initial focus on attachment as he looks at trauma from two perspectives. From the psychological perspective, the author discusses the impact of trauma on emotion, memory, the self, and relationships, incorporating research from neuroscience to argue that trauma is a physical illness. From the psychiatric perspective, the author discusses various trauma-related disorders and symptoms: depression, posttraumatic stress disorder, and dissociative disorders, along with a range of self-destructive behaviors to which trauma can make a contribution. Important updates include substantive and practical information on Emotion and emotion regulation, prompted by extensive contemporary research on emotion -- which is becoming a science unto itself. Illness, based on current developments in the neurobiological understanding of trauma. Depression, a pervasive trauma-related problem that poses a number of catch-22s for recovery. Various forms of self-destructiveness -- substance abuse, eating disorders, and deliberate self-harm -- all construed as coping strategies that backfire. Suicidal states and self-defeating aspects of personality disorders. The author addresses the challenges of healing by reviewing strategies of emotion regulation as well as a wide range of sound treatment approaches. He concludes with a new chapter on the foundation of all healing: maintaining hope. This exceptionally comprehensive overview of a wide range of traumatic experiences, written in nontechnical language with extensive references to both classic and contemporary theoretical, clinical, and research literature, offers a uniquely useful guide for victims of trauma, their family members, and mental health care professionals alike.
The Mourning Handbook
Author: Helen Fitzgerald
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1476764484
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 324
Book Description
Helen Fitzgerald, author of The Grieving Child, has compiled a guide to help readers practically and emotionally grieve the death of loved ones. No one should be left to grieve alone. Even with the help of friends and family, grieving the death of a loved one can be a complex, sometimes overwhelming, process. The Mourning Handbook is written as a companion to those mourners in need of practical and emotional assistance during the trying times before and after the death of a loved one. Having counseled thousands of people who have experienced loss, Helen Fitzgerald gives special attention to the complex emotions that can accompany especially traumatic situations, such as when a loved one has been murdered, when there have been multiple deaths, when a body has not been recovered, or when the mourner has been the inadvertent cause of death. Designed to conform to the special needs of the bereaved, The Mourning Handbook is written and organized in an accessible style punctuated by real stories of people who have experienced every kind of loss. With many subchapters and cross references, it can be consulted for a specific problem or read at length.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 1476764484
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 324
Book Description
Helen Fitzgerald, author of The Grieving Child, has compiled a guide to help readers practically and emotionally grieve the death of loved ones. No one should be left to grieve alone. Even with the help of friends and family, grieving the death of a loved one can be a complex, sometimes overwhelming, process. The Mourning Handbook is written as a companion to those mourners in need of practical and emotional assistance during the trying times before and after the death of a loved one. Having counseled thousands of people who have experienced loss, Helen Fitzgerald gives special attention to the complex emotions that can accompany especially traumatic situations, such as when a loved one has been murdered, when there have been multiple deaths, when a body has not been recovered, or when the mourner has been the inadvertent cause of death. Designed to conform to the special needs of the bereaved, The Mourning Handbook is written and organized in an accessible style punctuated by real stories of people who have experienced every kind of loss. With many subchapters and cross references, it can be consulted for a specific problem or read at length.
Running on Empty No More
Author: Jonice Webb
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 168350674X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 228
Book Description
“Opens doors to richer, more connected relationships by naming the elephant in the room ‘Childhood Emotional Neglect’” (Harville Hendrix, PhD & Helen Lakelly Hunt, PhD, authors of the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want). Since the publication of Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, many thousands of people have learned that invisible Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN, has been weighing on them their entire lives, and are now in the process of recovery. Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships will offer even more solutions for the effects of CEN on people’s lives: how to talk about CEN, and heal it, in relationships with partners, parents, and children. “Filled with examples of well-meaning people struggling in their relationships, Jonice Webb not only illustrates what’s missing between adults and their parents, husbands, and their wives, and parents and their children; she also explains exactly what to do about it.” —Terry Real, internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and author, Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, Oprah, and The New York Times “You will find practical solutions for everyday life to heal yourself and your relationships. This is a terrific new resource that I will be recommending to many clients now and in the future!” —Dr. Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough?
Publisher: Morgan James Publishing
ISBN: 168350674X
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 228
Book Description
“Opens doors to richer, more connected relationships by naming the elephant in the room ‘Childhood Emotional Neglect’” (Harville Hendrix, PhD & Helen Lakelly Hunt, PhD, authors of the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want). Since the publication of Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, many thousands of people have learned that invisible Childhood Emotional Neglect, or CEN, has been weighing on them their entire lives, and are now in the process of recovery. Running on Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships will offer even more solutions for the effects of CEN on people’s lives: how to talk about CEN, and heal it, in relationships with partners, parents, and children. “Filled with examples of well-meaning people struggling in their relationships, Jonice Webb not only illustrates what’s missing between adults and their parents, husbands, and their wives, and parents and their children; she also explains exactly what to do about it.” —Terry Real, internationally recognized family therapist, speaker and author, Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, Oprah, and The New York Times “You will find practical solutions for everyday life to heal yourself and your relationships. This is a terrific new resource that I will be recommending to many clients now and in the future!” —Dr. Karyl McBride, author of Will I Ever Be Good Enough?
Living Through the Meantime
Author: Iyanla Vanzant
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0743229789
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 232
Book Description
“The most powerful spiritual healer, fixer, teacher on the planet.” —Oprah Winfrey From the host of the OWN TV show, Iyanla: Fix My Life, the companion workbook to Iyanla Vanzant’s #1 New York Times bestseller In the Meantime provides an easy, step-by-step program to help you begin the healing process after facing adversity. Are you in the Meantime? Are you confused, angry, disappointed, frustrated, anxious, apprehensive, sorry for yourself, or generally wiped out? If so, my friend, you are in the meantime. Are you ready to put the pieces of your life together? Are you ready to begin the process of healing? Are you ready to give and receive love in all of your experiences? In Living Through the Meantime, bestselling author Iyanla Vanzant will lead you, step-by-step, to a greater understanding of your own past, your motivations, and your desires. Once you have completed this program of meditation, self-care, and self-examination, you will be able to move beyond your meantime experience and into the love that is your true essence.
Publisher: Simon and Schuster
ISBN: 0743229789
Category : Self-Help
Languages : en
Pages : 232
Book Description
“The most powerful spiritual healer, fixer, teacher on the planet.” —Oprah Winfrey From the host of the OWN TV show, Iyanla: Fix My Life, the companion workbook to Iyanla Vanzant’s #1 New York Times bestseller In the Meantime provides an easy, step-by-step program to help you begin the healing process after facing adversity. Are you in the Meantime? Are you confused, angry, disappointed, frustrated, anxious, apprehensive, sorry for yourself, or generally wiped out? If so, my friend, you are in the meantime. Are you ready to put the pieces of your life together? Are you ready to begin the process of healing? Are you ready to give and receive love in all of your experiences? In Living Through the Meantime, bestselling author Iyanla Vanzant will lead you, step-by-step, to a greater understanding of your own past, your motivations, and your desires. Once you have completed this program of meditation, self-care, and self-examination, you will be able to move beyond your meantime experience and into the love that is your true essence.
The Memory Eaters
Author: Elizabeth Kadetsky
Publisher: UMass + ORM
ISBN: 1613767498
Category : Literary Collections
Languages : en
Pages : 186
Book Description
On autopsy, the brain of an Alzheimer's patient can weigh as little as 30 percent of a healthy brain. The tissue grows porous. It is a sieve through which the past slips. As her mother loses her grasp on their shared history, Elizabeth Kadetsky sifts through boxes of the snapshots, newspaper clippings, pamphlets, and notebooks that remain, hoping to uncover the memories that her mother is actively losing as her dementia progresses. These remnants offer the false yet beguiling suggestion that the past is easy to reconstruct—easy to hold. At turns lyrical, poignant, and alluring, The Memory Eaters tells the story of a family's cyclical and intergenerational incidents of trauma, secret-keeping, and forgetting in the context of 1970s and 1980s New York City. Moving from her parents' divorce to her mother's career as a Seventh Avenue fashion model and from her sister's addiction and homelessness to her own experiences with therapy for post-traumatic stress disorder, Kadetsky takes readers on a spiraling trip through memory, consciousness fractured by addiction and dementia, and a compulsion for the past salved by nostalgia.
Publisher: UMass + ORM
ISBN: 1613767498
Category : Literary Collections
Languages : en
Pages : 186
Book Description
On autopsy, the brain of an Alzheimer's patient can weigh as little as 30 percent of a healthy brain. The tissue grows porous. It is a sieve through which the past slips. As her mother loses her grasp on their shared history, Elizabeth Kadetsky sifts through boxes of the snapshots, newspaper clippings, pamphlets, and notebooks that remain, hoping to uncover the memories that her mother is actively losing as her dementia progresses. These remnants offer the false yet beguiling suggestion that the past is easy to reconstruct—easy to hold. At turns lyrical, poignant, and alluring, The Memory Eaters tells the story of a family's cyclical and intergenerational incidents of trauma, secret-keeping, and forgetting in the context of 1970s and 1980s New York City. Moving from her parents' divorce to her mother's career as a Seventh Avenue fashion model and from her sister's addiction and homelessness to her own experiences with therapy for post-traumatic stress disorder, Kadetsky takes readers on a spiraling trip through memory, consciousness fractured by addiction and dementia, and a compulsion for the past salved by nostalgia.